03.21.06
Me, Myself and cribbing
“Why does this always happen to me?,” The stress is on the words
Always and Me. I personally believe that there is barely anyone in
this world who has never said this! People also have the tendency to
believe that they are the unluckiest people in this world (when they
are angry, depressed, lonely etc. etc) and that no one can ever beat
them on their bad luck! ( I don’t know if the exclaimation mark really
deserves to be there).
Okay now lets look at it from a different angle. How many of us have
consider ourselves to be the luckiest people on this Earth. Until a
few years I use to think i’m jinxed! Lucky – far from it. This however
is not about me. What I’m talking about is from a general observation.
People usually overlook their good luck because they are too busy
cribbing about their misfortune. I don’t have this, I can’t do this,
Why would anybody love me, oh wait, No one loves me are some of the
very few examples of this.
I always consider myself a part of this category and sometimes I get so
angry with myself for complaing about things, which after a deep
reflection (thats a lie, after a little while) seem so petty and
worthless, something that didn’t deserve so much of my time
and thought.
Moving on, When was the time last time you saw the sun rise and smile?
When wasthe last time you saw it disappearing in the beautiful blue sky
on a sandy beach. When was the last timeyou adored the beauty of flowers
and let their let their fragnance capture you (ya ok now thats
getting a bit too much but you get the idea). It is very important to
value little things and more than that its important to love your
own self.
According to Mr. Wordsworth, it is vital to suffer as it helps you
to be spiritual. Now thats a little too philoshophical. But if you are
already thankful for whatever little luck that you do have,
you don’t have to wait for bad luck to tell you this.
Ridhima Thakral
Siddharth Sangal said,
March 22, 2006 at 3:51 pm
Hey Ridhima :
First things first. It is good to have you writing in after so long. Your blog certainly broke the jinx of many ‘Pointless’ articles that were being put up. Like your previous enteries, “Me, Myself and Cribbings” has been able to address a very basic issue, which atleast all the normal people (n even some abnormal ones like me) hitting this website can relate to .
Ummm… I don’t see any harm in saying “Why does this always happen to me”… unless you actually start believing in it and make it a way of life (Though… after seeing today’s match… I have said ” Why does this always happen to our men in blue ” a zillion times). I think to have a “Whatever happens, happens for the good” kind of attitude is a great one to have, though it sounds philoshophical and often hard to live upto. But… Still!
Anyways… keep going and write more often.
S
sid said,
March 22, 2006 at 6:31 pm
i think what u write makes lots of sense..but the thing is that to not have a “why me” attitude, well thats almost being non-human. but as siddharth said above..what u write is much more interesting than most of the stuff here.
shell said,
March 24, 2006 at 8:43 am
hey you, so i randomly found your blog and just read all your posts instead of writing an (extremely pointless) essay that’s due in, oh, seven hours, and i would like to ask you this first: when the hell did you get so deep?? not that that is a bad thing…just so unlike the ridhima i know and love : )
must admit, tho, you raise some very interesting points…you’ve known me for so long, and if you should know just one thing about me by now, it’s that i love to whine. let’s just say it’s a fact i’ve learned to live with. like you say, it’s def true that people don’t count their blessings as often as they do their misfortune and that it’s the good things in life that are taken for granted. while i don’t consider myself unlucky in any way (i’m allowed to have my illusions), i know that i tend to focus on all that i don’t and can’t have way more than i probably should. questions that you ask yourself when you’re down, that you won’t ever have answers for, can start a downward spiral that you may never get out of. as sid said before me, however, it’s not human to not question your “bad luck” – even when you know that you’re not alone in feeling the way you do, it’s just human nature to have those thoughts of “why always me?” and, of course, it’s also human nature to blow things out of proportion and believe that things are much worse than they actually are.
basically, what it comes down to is self-esteem. you said, “it’s important to love your own self,” and that is what it’s all about. if you have the self-confidence to do what you want, project yourself the way you want, to enjoy all of life’s little things, without thinking about what all the people around you are going to think and say (especially behind your back – some people are just so freaking paranoid – btw, just to clarify, “some people” does not refer to me, i have reached the point where i really don’t give a shit, but i digress)
anyway, what i was saying was that, generally, it’s our insecurities that lead us to obsess over everything that’s going wrong in our lives…questions like, “why doesn’t s/he love me?” “what’s wrong with me?” (referring to an earlier blog you’d posted) and “why always me?” will eventually, hopefully anyway, take a back seat when we start focusing on things that we enjoy and take pleasure from – friends, family, diff activities, etc., and my fave, sunshine through my window first thing in the morning (believe me, living where i do, you learn to appreciate cheesy little things like that – any day that is not grey is going to be good in my book, no matter what actually takes place during the day!)
okay, i think i’ve taken up enough room on your page now. i should get started on my essay. i wish i could say writing here has given my some divine inspiration but sadly enough, it hasn’t (hah! talk about irony, i have to do this for a religion class).
take care, my philosopher-in-the-making friend
i miss you loads…muuuuuuaaaaaahhhhhhh!!!
love ya!
shell said,
March 24, 2006 at 8:44 am
wow, that was frickin long!
ok, bye!
Anshul said,
March 25, 2006 at 3:57 pm
You will always make logical sense…
Brains and the heart loose rythm for most of us. Our world is full of sellfish and mean people. There are 100000 compulsions.
I think its important that we do what the heart tells us and the brain follows in sync, also vice versa.
I dont know if I’ve made sense to you. All the same..!
Amit Singla said,
March 25, 2006 at 8:13 pm
this reminds me of following lines from Alchemist: “At some point of time in our life,we loose control of what is happening to us and our life get controlled by fate.”
And i agree to Paulo that its the world’s greatest lie…
incognito said,
September 23, 2008 at 7:44 am
hey ridhs….
amazing…you just touched the right cord…keep writing.plzzzzzzzzz
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